Monday 18 August 2008

Land of Stuff


No doubt I have an addictive bent towards stuff. I like pretty things and decorating and looking nice to the point that I can let it determine how I feel. When I like the way I look or my house looks, I feel good, when I don't like it I can feel grumpy or blah. Sadly this tells me that I get far too much meaning from things and looks. Interestingly enough the shopping monster in me has been kept at bay for years due to three small kids in tow (that will cure any shopper), then the demanding schedule of homeschooling (no time for shopping except for a quick run in grab what you need and get out) and now living in England. We live in the northwest corner of England across the mountains and way off the motorway. This means number one that you only come here if you need to, number two that shopping options are at a major low and number three it is so beautiful up here they don't want to ruin it with commercialism. You arent' up here long before you notice that there are no billboards or neon signs, no high rise condos capitalizing on the views and not very many stores. The stores that are here are very small and limited in their inventory; and they close at 5:30 except the grocery store which closes at 8 pm. Now remember that the dollar is very low compared to the British pound - for every pound you spend it is $2. Take all the facts above into account and you can see that we didn't shop much this past year. Therefore I went home armed with empty suitcases with the intent to do the year's shopping for 5 people.

You would think this was every girl's dream - a shopping spree! Stores in America even compared to England are loaded. Packaging is at a premium - wants turn into needs in the blink of an eye. The Thompsons are not exempt from this lure. It is suttle and sickening the pull it has on us as a nation and on our family. Our houses are full of things we don't need cluttering our lives and hearts with distractions and consuming our time.

I spent many days of the month in America dashing here and there filling the empty suitcases I brought home to 'save' money and take back a year's worth of school shoes, dress shoes, blue jeans, socks, underwear, contact solution, hair gel and some gifts. Ugh - it left me feeling sick to my stomach on many occasions.
Dennis noticed how indulgent we as a people are. We stop to get gas and buy a drink and snack. Why? Because we are famished? No, because we want one and we can so we do. Our kids want to go to the movies or to some other place of entertainment and we let them. Why? Because they are deprived and in need of stimulus? No, because we want to and we can so we do. We buy the latest electronic gadget. Why? Because our lives are not functioning well without it? No, because we want one and we can so we do. Why? What is this doing to us? How is this fooling us into a temporary satisfaction that we think is fulfilling?

Back in college, I spent a summer in the former Soviet Union where it struck me as we talked with other college age kids about a meaningful relationship with Christ, they saw us in America as having it all and if they could also just 'have it all' they too could be happy. They didn't need Jesus - they just needed the freedom and access to stuff. Wow. Was Jesus really enough or was it Jesus+stuff+freedom=contentment and peace? A serious question we all must ask ourselves -especially those of us from the land of stuff.

Wednesday 13 August 2008

Lessons Learned From a Month in America

How do you cram meaningful visits with all your family and friends, 19 medical appointments and shopping for a year for 5 people into one month and relax? Well, I can tell you that you don't but I certainly tried. Dennis was with us for the first two weeks of back to back get togethers. He returned to work not having had a 'vacation' really since the pace was crazy but having spent time with people that are dear to us.
Over the next few days I will try to reflect on the lessons learned and the observations we made about ourselves and life in America. No doubt the biggest observation was a continuation of a lesson we learned when we left Augusta last August to move and that was that we have an amazing community of friends...wow...amazing! Even my mom commented on the unusualness of it. These are people that have loved us in very generous and unselfish ways from afar as well as in person. I can live without the medical system and the cheaper and greater variety of the stores but what I miss most is the people. People that know your story and your sin and love you anyway.